The old telling “The pen is mightier than the sword” is testament to the true power of words. While there are many ways to influence and inspire a person, few are more effective than a well chosen anecdote or piece of advice.
Reddit user AWWWshetz asked a question on the AskReddit Subreddit, and the responses collected are a list of occasions when words were so powerful, they literally changed lives. These nuggets of wisdom genuinely strike a chord, and we are sure there are a few in there that they are able to inspire you too! Scroll down below to check them out for yourself, and upvote your favorite ones!( Cover image: Pablo Manriquez I Facebook cover image: whatleydude)
I was 13 years old, trying to teach my 6 year old sister how to dive into a swimming pool from the side of the pond. It was taking quite a while as my sister was really nervous about it. We were at a big, public pond, and nearby there was a woman, about 75 years old, slowly swimming laps. Occasionally she would stop and watch us. Finally she swam over to us just when I was truly putting the pressure on, trying to get my sister to try the dive, and my sister was wailing, “but I’m afraid !! I’m so afraid !! ” The old woman looked at my sister, raised her fist defiantly in the air and told, “So be afraid! And then do it anyway! “
That was 35 years ago and I have never forgotten it. It was a revelation — it’s not about being unafraid. It’s about being afraid and doing it anyway.
“Don’t be a d* ck to your puppy. He’s a few years of their own lives, but you are all of his”
My mom was dying. A friend told me “you have your whole life to freak out about this– don’t do it in front of her. “
It actually helped me to understand that my feelings are not always what’s important. It IS possible to lag a freakout, and that ability has served me innumerable times.
I met a person who was in a wheelchair. He associated a narrative about how a person once would like to know whether it was difficult to be confined to a wheelchair. He answered, “I’m not confined to my wheelchair – I am liberated by it. If it wasn’t for my wheelchair, I would be bed-bound and never able to leave my room or house. “
When I was 38 I contemplated beginning a two year Associates Degree in Radiography. I was talking to a friend and had almost talked myself out of doing it. I said “I’m too old to start that. I’ll be 40 when I get my degree.” My friend told “If you don’t do it, you’ll still be 40, but without the degree.” I’m nearly 60 now, and that degree has been the difference between making a decent living, and struggling to get by.
When I was young and having what I thought was a serious relationship talk with my first real SO, I told her that I just wanted to find the right person.
Without missing a beat she said, “Everybody is looking for the right person, and nobody is trying to be the right person.”
That stopped me in my tracks.
A friend of the family’s five year-old child died in a freak accident, where the parent had just left the room for a minute to go to the bathroom, and the child climbed on top of the Tv, and it toppled and crushed him. The family was in pieces, and the father undeservedly blamed himself for the death of his child. I recollect telling my dad, a stoic man who has only said he love me maybe three times in his life, that this is a reason that I don’t know if I want infants. I don’t believe I could handle something like this.
His response was: Even one minute with you in my life is worth whatever pain I would feel if you had died.
To hear that from him actually showed me how strong that bond can be, even if a parent doesn’t depict it openly, and changed my intellect about wanting children.
“Think of a day you were embarrassed, easy right? Now think of a period someone else was embarrassed. It’s a lot harder to do isn’t it? ” I don’t actually worry about being embarrassed anymore if no one but I will remember it!
After get rejected by a bunch of colleges in the same week, my papa( who is a novelist) told “I was rejected by Stanford three times, and now my volumes are in their library. You’ve got to be better than them.”
As a child, my obligation was to empty the dishwasher.
I was something like 10, that day. I was always trying to do that fast, so I had more time to play SMB on my NES.
Only my dad was home, horticulture. I grabbed the coffee pot that was in the dishwasher and it slipped off my hand, to broke loudly in pieces on the floor.
I was ashamed and afraid of my dad’s reaction. Like a lot. He was( and still is) a nice guy, but for me “its like” a big mistake, and for my child brain, this pot was worth a lot of money. He would be mad.
It took all my fortitude to go consider my papa and tell him, but I did. I was almost crying of shame, while still having the handle of the pot in my hand, as a proof.
My dad, calmly looked at me, and said “Breaking something happens when you work, that’s ok, don’t worry”.
It’s silly, but I think of that almost every day. It’s okay to make mistake, at the least you are trying to do something.
Next year, you’ll wish you had started today.
I’m the oldest of three children. I’m older than my little brother by 2.5 years and my little sister by 9.5.
When I was about fourteen or so, arguing with my dad in private about something I don’t recollect, he, being the second-oldest of eight children, told me:
“Any decision you induce in this household, you stimulate three times. Once when you make it, once when your brother attains the same decision after watching you do it, and once when your sister constructs the same decision after watching you and your brother do it. How you treat your friend will tell him how he can treat your sister; and how you treat your sister tells her how she will expect to be treated for the rest of her life, even as far as her future boyfriends.”
That kinda shook me up and stimulated me rethink my role as the oldest child; I started taking my responsibilities as the role model a lot more seriously after that. Even when you aren’t trying to actively influence those around you, those who look up to and respect you will still base their decisions, in part, on how they’ve watched you manage similar situations. If you break down and get stressed and angry when something inconvenient happens, they’ll feel better doing the same when something similarly small happens to them. But if you keep your cool in a dire situation and under a lot of stress, it can inspire them to believe they can do the same.
“How would it induce “youre feeling”? “
It’s the sentence that changed my stance on lesbian marriage. Without context, that seems silly, but I’ll offer up a shortened version. I grew up in suburban STL to conservative Christian parents( and they weren’t remotely tolerant) and pretty much never left my convenience bubble. I moved to Kansas City when I was 20 to finish college. My roommate was good friends with a gay couple, and this was my first encounter with gay people( that I knew of, which was ignorant. There’s no way it was my first ). Inevitably, we got into a debate, and they basically went into a tirade about how much it sucks to constantly be chided and induced fun of, and how it sucks to be treated unfairly because of something they can’t control. I reverted to the classic “it’s a selection! ” line of thinking. They responded with “why would we f* cking opt this for ourselves? Why would we choose to constantly be made fun of, to constantly be judged, and constantly be denied rights? How would it make YOU feel? ” It was pretty much that exact moment when I, who I consider to be a logical person, realized I was being an illogical asshole and that I was just regurgitating the sh* t I picked up from being raised in a conservative Christian household. From that moment on, I start undoing all of the programming in my intellect from years of living in a sheltered environment. My views have since changed on nearly everything, from lesbian marriage to abortion to religion. One sentence from one conversation with two lesbians humen changed me in a huge number of ways, and now I scoff at the idea that you can’t change someone’s intellect about these things.
Everyone you fulfill knows something you don’t.” My grandpa told me this, and it’s been a good reminder that I am surrounded by teachers.
I recently got married earlier this year, and plainly our marriage is far from perfect. We argue, and disagree, and sometimes can’t stand to be around one another. I grew up in a very hostile surrounding and having an arguement with a family member was nasty. Personal attacks were always use, instant rage, and no mutual understanding was ever to be had. It was always about who was right and how to construct them feel bad. When I got married, I quickly “ve noticed that” my fighting habits were toxic for our relationship, and my husband said something to me that I use in every relationship I have. He told me, “It’s not You Vs Me, love. It’s You and Me Vs Problem. We are always a team.” It’s helped me overcome some serious rifts in my personal relationships and I will never forget it.
My mom was in a nursing home, regaining from a heart attack( a battle she eventually lost ). She had struggled with depression in her life, and this was hitting her very hard. She had worked in nursing home, and detested them. I expended hours a day with her, and some days were better than others. I pushed her a lot, promoting a positive outlook, and patience. Patience with herself, her situation, the staff, everything.
I started taking in some headphones, guessing perhaps music would cheer her up. So one afternoon I’m sitting next to her bed, and she’s listening to my iPhone, and tears merely start running down her face. I pulled the headphones off her and started asking her what was wrong. Asking her not to sobbing. She looked at me and smiled like a mom looking at her son, and simply asked me “what if that’s what I require right now? To scream? ” Then she pulled the headphones back on.
Through all the pain and chaos of the last few years, that really stuck with me. What if sometimes, you don’t need to focus on the positive. You don’t need to smile, and bear it. Sometimes you just need to cry.
“You know you’re an adult when you can be right without demonstrating the other person wrong.”
This is a bit lengthy, but changed my life. Not just the way I think. When I was young my father abandoned me twice as small children. I grew up to be a very angry and depressed young man. I truly disliked him for it. In high school, I had this amazing teacher. He helped me, and so many others, in so many routes. But one day he asked me something. He asked “You hate him right? ” I said yeah. He said “And he deserves it right? ” And, again, I said yes. Then he then he said “Do you think he feelings any of your hatred for him? ” I guessed for a few seconds and answered “No. He probably doesn’t.” And then he told “But you feel all of it. And you don’t deserve that. It’s time to forgive the man. Not because he deserves it. But because you do.”. He was completely right. I forgave my father, and over hour have built up an incredibly close relationship with the man. And I could neve have gotten to this phase without my teacher.
In words of love and romance, the truth is, the only person you know you’re definitely spending the rest of their own lives with is you.
Everything else is simply not guaranteed -no matter how much you believe in a
and all that it necessitates. People succumb. People leave. People change their intellects. When all is said and done, you end up with yourself. So you better f* cking like who that is. In fact, you better LOVE who that is. Run everyday to be your best self. And don’t let ANYONE EVER define who you are without your permission.
People won’t remember the words you say but how it induced them feel.
“You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm”.
Really hit home for me, since I grew up trying to mediate my parents’ issues and had multiple friends in and out of the ER for mental health crises during my teen years, among other things. As someone who spent the majority of their own lives impression like she had to take care of others at all costs, it was kinda a shock to the system to hear that I was allowed to have my limits even with people who truly required help.
“You’re going to die one day. We all are. Do everything you want to do. Don’t wind up on your death bed one day thinking of all the things you didn’t do because assholes might have an asshole sentiment about it. They’re just jealous anyways.”
~ My granddad at 89 years old; a few months before he died 12 years ago.
And that’s the real quote. It was on video.
“Education is expensive, but no education is more expensive”. Definitely took school more seriously after person said that to me.
My old boss, the CEO of a small hospital, told me a tale from back when he was a lab technician( for simplicity, let’s call him Dan ). Dan had forgotten to check some sort of mechanism on a piece of equipment he used, it malfunctioned and has broken the equipment which ended up having around a $250,000 repair bill. The next day Dan’s boss called him in to talk about it, and he was sure he was going to be fired. His boss asked him why he didn’t do a proper check, induced sure he understood what happened and sent him back to work. Dan asked him “Am I not getting fired? I was almost sure that’s what this was about.” His boss told “No way, I simply spent $250,000 teaching you a lesson you’ll never forget. Why would I fire you now? “
It seems silly, but that attitude always resonated with me. Don’t stimulate professional decisions based on emotional responses. Always know what your goal is when dealing with someone, and what exact problem you are trying to solve. Everyone attains mistakes, and screaming at them merely constructs them resent you and become defensive. Being calm and understanding will induce people look up to you.
My dad was/ is a deacon of a church, and one part of his duties was to visit with people in retirement homes and bring them communion. He couldn’t go one day, and he asked me( I was in high school at the time) to go in his place.
Perhaps plainly, with me being young and the people in the homes being elderly, age was a frequent topic of conversation. One old boy told me, “the hardest thing about getting old is running out of people who understand you.” That is, each generation has a unique way of looking at the world and what it means to be alive in it, and as new generations come and redefine what the world is, one’s world get smaller and smaller as there are fewer people around who understand your world in the same way.
We are all marching toward obsolescence. I think I became much more of a realist that day.
“There will be something you detest in every task. The trick is finding a job where you love the very best portions enough to make up for the crappy parts.”
That might sound like a dumb one to list here, but whenever I have problems related to work( which seems to be where I need the majority of members of my motive) I like to think back on this and take a deep breath. It’s ok to detest where you are sometimes. The trick is to remind yourself what it is you like, and power through.
“Depression presents itself in the guise of rational thought.” Said by my uncle.
‘Your job will never love you.”
It constructed me really reconsider being so emotionally invested in it.
“It’s merely embarrassing if you’re embarrassed.” Changed my life forever.
“Shouting a person into silence does not mean you have shouted them into agreement.”
Forgot who originally said this, so I cannot give proper credit.
Having grown up somewhat poor, I was always insecure when going to nice places…felt out of place and not as good as the other people there.
Out on a date at a nice restaurant once and the guy I was with said something along the lines of, “You’re paying for your meal just like everyone else here…You deserve to be here just as much as they do.”
I still get insecure sometimes, but I always think back to this and feel instantly better about myself.
There is no harder, merely hard.
Helped me to realize that it doesn’t matter if someone’s problems are bigger or smaller than mine. At some point, everyone goes through the hardest thing they’ve ever had to deal with.
When I was a young kid and did really well on some tests at school I came home and boasted about it. “Mom! Guess what ?! I’m really really smart! “
Mom: “So what are you going to do about it? “
It’s been 20 years and I still don’t know the right answer to that question.
“I learned to give … not because I have too much. But because I know how it feels to have nothing.”
We’re all tired, we all merely want to sit on our couch in front of our TV’s. But that’s not living, man.
-My buddy, when I told him I didn’t want to go out because I’d had a long day.
This is a philosophy I live by now. My life is so much better for it.
On the subject of healthy feeing/ losing weight etc; a bald and muscly homosexual human once said to me … “Don’t treat yourself with food, you are not a dog.”
“If you’re scared of doing it because you’re afraid that people will judge you, trust me they won’t even remember it after a year.”
Something like that. Constructed me a little daredevillish.
I instead live a life of ‘oh wells’ than ‘what ifs? ‘
I was having a bad day one time and being all “Why me? ” when a coworker told “Why not you? “. I had never thought about it before, but it was a good point. So I shut up and get over it.
My dad once “ve given me” and my brother each a dollar out of nowhere. I scoffed and told “Dad its simply a dollar, you keep it.” He get really mad and told “Never try to give anything back that someone gives you. It could be all they have to give and a huge sacrifice to them.” I felt like such a dick. And I could really use that dollar right now.
“Never point out your flaws. Let others figure them out on their own.”
“You aren’t IN traffic, you ARE traffic.”
When I was 19/20 my mum started taking out loans to construct homes abroad, which I thought was a silly and expensive waste of money but she told me it had always been her dream to own land/ be a landlady. Which I thought was strange considering she was a nurse and she’d never once mentioned it in all the years I’d known her.
A few months later it dawned on me that it had coincided perfectly with the time my younger sister( who was the lastborn) had left the house to go off to school. Now considering she had four children it reached me that she’d basically put her entire life on hold simply to take care of us, and this wasn’t simply old school got a job, it was full on move to a different country/ move heaven and hell to make sure we’d had a good life. And after over thirty years of putting the work in for us, she’d finally turned around and started working on her dream.
Absolutely floored me and was the first “Whoa my mum’s an actual person( and not just my mum) who’d done all this for me.” Appreciate your mothers people and hopefully do the same for your kids.
“Isn’t it funny how day by day nothing changes but, when we look back everything is different…” – C.S Lewis
The first female leader of the Cherokee Nation came to my college campus years ago. She gave a speech, talking about how her life had been formed by always striving for more, never turning away from the challenge. Her advice was simple: “Go where the fear is” -Wilma Mankiller. When confronted with two roads I always select what scares me more.
When I was in college a friend of mine told me I was gentle.
After being called sensitive all my life up until that point, and not in a good way, hearing that attained me feel a lot better about myself.
In an episode of Louie he tells one of his daughters, “The only day you should look in your neighbor’s bowl is to make sure he has enough.” I’m sure Louis CK didn’t invent that on his own, but it was the first time I’d heard it, and it’s stick with me.
We judge others by their actions and ourselves on our intents. Genuinely made me think about people and I try telling myself that when the f* cking moronic in front on me doesn’t indicate when merging.
“Would you rather wake up in twenty years wondering what you missed or wake up in twenty years knowing exactly what you missed? “
Never had commitment issues after that.
My psychologist gave me a print of a picture of Winnie the Pooh and Piglet in the forest. This is the quote that went with it:
“Supposing a tree fell out, Pooh, when we were underneath it? “
“Supposing it didn’t, ” said Pooh, after careful thought.
Piglet was comforted by this.
I think about it when I’m catastrophising and it is really helpful for soothing down and thinking rationally about whatever situation I’m in.
I had just opened up to a good friend of mine about how, after 10+ years of intractable treatment-resistant depression, I was completely exhausted and truly did not want to be alive anymore. At the time, I had kind of accepted that things would eventually get better, but I thought that it would be years until my life was what I wanted/ needed it to be, and I simply felt unbelievably frustrated at everyone telling me to “wait it out”.
Instead of devoting lame advice, he asked me more about my plans, and it came out that the only thing that’s ever maintained me running is a drive to contribute something meaningful to humanity, and I just couldn’t stand the idea of giving up and essentially leaving the world a little worse off. That’s when he busted out this one:
“You know, I think it’s almost tragically beautiful that you maintain putting yourself through this just for the sake of other people. I know it’s hard to believe it’ll ever be worth 15 years of agony, but once you’re on the other side of it I think you’ll watch what an incredible person that stimulates you.”
It still builds me rip up every time I think about it. It was one of the most important things anyone’s said to encourage me, and it helped get me through some of my worst hours. Thankfully, it was only about a year after that that I eventually found a therapy that worked. No updates yet on the giant ego I’m supposed to be growing, though 😉
“Inner beauty is what really matters in a person.” Never believed this until recently. I started dating a good friend of mine a few months ago, and am in the best relationship I’ve ever had. I will admit, when I first gratified her I didn’t find her attractive and had no interest in dating her. We hit it off really well when we first met and became close friends in no time. The more I hung out with her, the more I realized how much I disliked being away from her. Now we’re together and I’m the happiest I’ve ever been.
I used to fight for every square inch on the job. I wanted to make sure we did everything the right way, cutting no corners. Right before he retired and older employee said 3 simple terms. “Choose your battles.”
Sat me down, appeared me in the eyes, and said “You will be dead someday. No matter what you believe, there is no hard prove there is anything more. You will never have a chance like this again. What are you going to do? “
“You have an attitude.”
It was said to me by a friend when I was about 25. I’m virtually 40 now. He elaborated by saying that my personality carries a huge absence of humility. The things I would say or do, in most cases, was very off-putting to a majority of people. I always had a better story after person finished theirs. I was full of knowledge on any subject, or whatever sentiment I had on the matter was always superior and correct. My way of doing things was the best route. I seemed ungrateful, selfish, and pompous. And I had no clue whatsoever.
I’ll never be borne in mind that dialogue and the paradigm transformation my brain experienced that day. Once I was aware of such an attitude I started thinking about my relationships and the environment I created because of my general assholery and douchebaggedness. I actually sunk into depression for a short time, realise the style I had treated people and taken them for granted.
Over a few years I slowly learned so many things about myself and others. I learned how to listen. To enjoy myself in groups and not need to be the focus of different groups. To be compassionate and empathetic. To give advice only when asked, or out of heartfelt concern or genuine fret. To put others first when it countings. To show up. To be a friend instead of a challenger. I’ve learned many other things from that statement, too many to list.
It’s incredible to me how I’m still learning. I think we all are and no one truly has it figured out. I know I don’t. But I’ll never forget how that one small statement had/ has a long term consequence on me.
“If it was easy, everyone would do it.”
My father is a good man. One day I was chuckling about something I witnessed at lunch: A lady was across the street from my office sitting on the lawn pulling up grass and eating it. I was making fun of her to my father. My papa replied, “that’s not funny. You’re being unkind. You don’t know what she’s been through in life to bring her to doing that.” It make me hard. I now find myself correcting my thinks when I go to magistrate someone.
“The person that you will expend the most hour with in your life is yourself, so to continue efforts to stimulate yourself as interesting as is practicable. “
Courage is being scared to death, but saddling up anyway.a
When I joined the army I went to Germany, and had to go to a new-person briefing by the chaplin. I’m not religion. I don’t give a damn what the chaplin has to say. Blithely, the chaplin didn’t talking here Jesus or abstinence or any of that. What he said has stuck with me ever since, through many moves and life changes:
“When you move to a new place where you have no friends, you’re going to be lonely. You’re going to be overtly unhappy for six weeks, and not really happy for six months. Don’t kill yourself and don’t get married.”
“When we hit our lowest point, we are open to the greatest change”
I know it’s from a cartoon but it really helped me deal with losing both my job and girlfriend in the same month this past January. I’ve never felt more alone or worthless in my life until that point but I now believe that that ache was a necessary pain that spurred me to grow both professionally and personally. Things are still rough around the edges for me but it helps to think that things will get better if you can stay positive
“A fool thinks himself to be a wise man, a wise man knows himself to be a fool.”
I first heard this phrase when I was younger and thankfully it knocked me back a few pegs.
“You should be able to stand in front of every ex’s future husband( or spouse) and have them thank you for the impact “youve had” in her( or his) life.”
It’s hard to live this style. But boy is it worth it.
Be who you are and say what you feel, because the individuals who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”
Can’t say it’s changed my life but it was certainly one of the better move lines I’ve ever heard. From “Bad Day at Black Rock”:
A man is only as big as what gets him mad.
Lost my girlfriend, took it really hard. Close friend told: “I know you’re sad, but don’t let this ruin the things that are still good in your life.”
Was a real eye-opener. Things can go bad, a lot can go bad, but there’s always good in their own lives. Be assured that the things that are still good in your life aren’t ruined, just because something went wrong along the way.
I don’t recollect the quote exactly, but I believe Jake from Adventure Time says something similar to, “Being bad at something is the first step to being sorta good at something.”
It stimulated me realise I shouldn’t worry too much about being sh* t at describing but that I should keep going so I’m less sh* t at it.
“Don’t dwell on the past. All that matters is where you are now, and what you are going to do to get you from where you are to where you want to be. None of those actions will happen in the past, they happen right now.” – My dad.
“Don’t worry about unimportant things. If it’s not something you are able to worry about in 50 years when you are where I am( on your deathbed ), then forget about it, it isn’t important.”. – My grandmother on her deathbed.
Both are gems IMO.
I suppose mine is when my father told me these words after he saw me crying like a b* tch over my first ever failed major exam.
“Never regret anything in life. You did something stupid? Shrug it off and never do it again. Lost something valuable? Keep forgetting that and convince yourself you’ll get something style better and you are able to. Regret never helped anyone. It only adds to the loading on your back. You can’t turn back hour so when something is done don’t ask tell yourself I should’ve been doing this, I shouldn’t have done that. Tell yourself I will never do that same mistake again.”
and just like that he turned me into the better person that i am today.
When I was in college, I used to call my dad on my 15 minute stroll to class. One semester I had classes at 3:30 pm, 5, and 6:30 pm every day, and nothing before then. I used to sleep until 2pm every day. On the weekends I’d sleep most of the day.
One time he asked me when I woke up and I told him I get out of bed in time for class that day, proud of myself to have slept for 12 hours. I’ll never forget what he said.
“Son, when you get to be mine and your mother’s age, sleeping the day away just seems like such a garbage. We’ve get less than half our lives left to live, we just can’t afford to spend half of that sleeping.”
I rarely sleep the day away now.
“Do it to do it , not to have done it.”
-Teacher of mine
Made me genuinely think about my motives for doing things as I moved forward.
Sorry for the bad english
“There’s no point trying to track down your SO when they go out, or even asking them not to run, just because you’re afraid of being cheated on. If they want to cheat on you, they will. They will miss a day of work, or lie about visiting their parents, or even fake a medical appointment. There’s nothing you can do about that. The only thing you can do, is being a caring, caring person. This is the most effective way of obtaining people love and trust.”
After I was diagnosed with kidney failure, I was devastated. My mommy then told me a very simple thing – “It could have been worse, it can always get worse. Appear around yourself, you’ll find many things to be grateful for.”
And I believed it, I seemed around in my “families “. One of my cousins has blood cancer and another is HIV +. Their therapies are way more rigorous than mine. I’m grateful for what I still have in my life – a great husband, good finances, loving family and friends. Many people don’t have these and my cousins would gladly switch places with me.
Thinking about what my mama said always constructs me feel better.
I was in history class and I forgot to do my homework one time. I was trying to plead my instance to the teacher, and I told her that although I did not do the run I knew all the answers and could give them to her right then and there. She told me “it’s not about what you know, it about what you do.”
Best advice I’ve ever gotten.
TLDR: It’s not just how much you construct, it’s how much you spend.
My HS Economics teacher posed this question: One person stimulates $100 per week and the other makes $200 per week. Who has more money?
Most of the class said “The guy who attains $200 per week.” The educator then responded: “You are wrong. Everyone should have asked for the other half of the formula. How much does each person spend? “
Person A spends $80 per week and Person B expends $220 per week. It is often not about how much you attain, but about how much you spend. The idea of Keeping up with the Jones’ can attain you bankrupt very quickly. Live within your means and save for rainy days, because there are always rainy days.
It was the best advisory opinions and motive I have ever had to keep my own personal finances clear. And it has allowed me more freedom in chore options, living locatings and other decisions that most people I know are stuck in.
“The world is a tragedy to those who feel, but a slapstick to those who think.”
Not said to me, but I read it. Forced me to think critically about life the status and seek out the very best in any situation.
“If you always put someone else first, you’re telling them you always come second”
It was something like that, I can’t recollect if I’m quoting it correctly. I actually saw this on an Advice Mallard meme and thought it was pretty good.
“Just because it doesn’t get better today or tomorrow doesn’t entail it’ll never get better, so just hold out for the working day when it does” – my SO in the beginning of our relationship when I had a lot of pain to deal with and was ready to give up. Changed my whole outlook on life.
“At the end of the day, our tombs are all six feet deep and all our urns fit on the mantelpiece”
My uncle, who’s a Mortician. One of the many things that induced me decide to get into the business.
My dad did the exact same thing to me.
I had landed a good job and coupled with someone operating a red light and totaling my car, I bought myself a BMW. I went into an automobile shop for an air filter and kid was asking me what car I had. After I told him, he started talking about his vehicle and how he enjoyed it and whatever. It was a pretty rough appearing BMW that he had started to do stuff on it.
I told my papa the story and was actually pretty poking fun like, “Yeah, his BMW was crap, doesn’t even compare to mine.”
And my father just said, “Yeah, but he set a lot of work and endeavour into it and he’s proud of it.”
I didn’t realize how much of a piece of sh* t I was being until he said that. It was merely with automobiles though. I am always supportive of everything, everyone does. After being discredited my entire life for ANYTHING I did, starting at a very young age. Anytime someone I knew was doing something I took a huge interest in it and talked to them about it for hours or days or months or years.
The only thing I actually get exhilaration from in life now is talking to other people who are proud and love what they are doing. Any person with passion for something, regardless of the state of their passion. If I can talk to them about their hobby I am the happiest I can be.
A good friend once told me “you have to be comfortable with being uncomfortable”
“Know where you’re aiming to go.”
It was said by my piano educator, as in “if there is a low D coming up, know that and prepare for it, ” but it applies to so much more. If I want to achieve some goal, acknowledge that goal and then make it happen. So often we don’t properly enunciate our ACTUAL goals to ourselves.
When I was in my twenties a therapist said, “you know sometimes people enjoy being depressed.” I realise then that I did, and never was again( in my forties now ).
I was a fairly religious child. In 8th grade a girl said, “I’m so glad I was born into a family with the right religion.” It induced me topic my whole notion system and led me to becoming agnostic.
“Why would anyone choose to be this style? ” My RA in college breaking down weeping after some kind of bullsh* t when someone told him it would be easier if he chose not to be lesbian. Instant empathy. Suddenly I realized that everyone has the same consciousness and feelings as I do, regardless of appearance or preference.
“Put your mind where your body is.”
My Godmother’s lesson. I know it seems simple, but I find that it can be so hard to stay present in the world we live in. This is the most direct and to the phase the purpose of explaining mindfulness I’ve ever heard and it has really stuck with me.
She passed away about a month ago, and I miss her and her wisdom awfully, but I can still hear her reminding me when I start to forget.
You cannot keep birds from flying over your head but you can keep them from constructing a nest in your haira
“I’m not afraid of death. It’s the stake one sets up in order to play the game of life.” – Jean Girraudoux
It is the only thing I’ve ever read that helped me deal with my own mortality.
“We’re all background characters in someone else’s story.”
Read it on here not to long ago.
Another: “Live like you have nothing to lose, Love like you have everything to lose.”
“I know you’re not okay … but you’ll accept things, move on, and be okay. I know you will.”
Sometimes you climb out of bed in the morning and you think, I’m not going to make it, but you laugh inside a
remembering all the times you’ve felt that way.a
“Do it because you’re scared.”
First of all, I never strive for identity. Thata
s something that just has happened automatically as a result, I guess, of merely putting things together, tearing things apart and putting it together my own way, and somehow I guess the individual comes through eventually.”
-Bill Evans, jazz pianist
“shyness is actually vanity in a different guise.”
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