At around 10:20 a.m. on June 5, 2018, way icon Kate Spade was were dead in her New York apartment.
She was 55 years old.
The Associated Press was early to report news of the legendary handbag designer’s death. From the outside, she seemed to have it all: a spouse/ business partner, a 13 -year-old daughter, and millions of dollars.
As is so often the occurrence with suicide, however, this view from the outside didn’t tell virtually the whole story.
As people paid tribute on social media, some started an important dialogue about how we talk about suicide.
Let’s face it: Talking about mental health and suicide is never easy. Between the stigma that surrounds it and the struggles some have to get the health care they need, it’s easy to just let a lot of commonsense things go unsaid — which only increases the stigma.
On Twitter, a number of people stepped forward to break the stillnes around the topic . strong>
Empathy was a common theme in many of these posts.
Just another one of those hours when you realise you can’t even imagine other people’s ache. RIP Kate Spade.
— Maris Kreizman (@ mariskreizman) June 5, 2018
Others offered up a simple tip-off: Check in on family and friends who might feel vulnerable in the wake of this high profile news. A simple, “I just wanted to say hi and see how you’re doing” “il be going” a long way.
Another common theme was a reminder that depression isn’t always easy to spot in others.
Even worse, some people feeling too embarrassed to reach out when they need help, especially those who look outwardly successful. “Kate Spade was an entrepreneurial and artistic force, and all of us know that already, ” Anne T. Donahue wrote. “But what we don’t tend to is what’s going on behind the scenes.”
With Kate Spade’s occur, it’s an important reminder that fund, fame, and capitalistic success cannot beat back depression or mental illness.
Check in on your people. Talk about feelings. Discuss mental health. Open those doors.
Take care of each other.
— Stef Sanjati (@ stefsanjati) June 5, 2018
Lots of people speak up to remind those fighting that overcoming embarrassment in order to ask for help is really tough — and that’s OK . strong>
Journalist Ana Marie Cox shared the secrets to overcoming that: reminding yourself that you are loved and understanding when to ask for help. You’re likely underestimating how many people in your life care deeply for you.
If YOU are experiencing suicidal thinks: it’s ok, don’t be embarrassed, and that doesn’t mean have to go to the psych ward right away. But you also don’t have to let those guess simply live in your head. Talk to a friend, call the Lifeline, tell* someone .* https :// t.co/ HAPMsMLf1d
— ana marie cox (@ anamariecox) June 5, 2018
And, fwiw, psych wards aren’t so bad–my second trip-up was profoundly life-changing; I still think a great deal about the person or persons I met and the experience I had. So, if that’s what you and your support team decide that’s what you need: chin up! You will learn to eat everything with spoonfuls!
— ana marie cox (@ anamariecox) June 5, 2018
LGBTQ advocate Charlotte Clymer urged people is maintaining mind how their terms can affect others during times of tragedy. For example, this isn’t the time or place to say things like, “Well, I didn’t like her containers anyway.” Resources like Reporting on Suicide are great for journalists as well as the rest of us.
Folks, please be careful how you talk about suicide today. Do so with compassion. This is a heartbreaking misfortune, and I can only how Kate Spade’s family and friends feel. Don’t make this worse for them and others by projecting toxic judgment on someone who was suffering.
— Charlotte Clymer [?] (@ cmclymer) June 5, 2018
Another crucial issue many are bringing up is the fact that suicide is a public health issue.
“Depression is a life threatening illness just like heart disease, cancer, or sepsis, ” tweeted Dr. Eugene Gu. “There should be no stigma about mental health — only therapy, awareness, and compassion.”
Incredibly saddened by Kate Spade’s tragic suicide at merely 55. Depression is a life threatening illness just like heart disease, cancer, or sepsis. There should be no stigma about mental health–only treatment, awareness, and compassion.
— Eugene Gu, MD (@ eugenegu) June 5, 2018
Between Avicii, Kate Spade, and Kanye’s recent mental health admission, I actually hope this country starts to apportion the resources and attention that mental health clinics need to help others.
— nyoldman (@ NYDoorman) June 5, 2018
If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed by these discussions, there’s no dishonor in signing off the internet for the day. Take care of yourself. The world will still be here in the morning.
Reminder that you don’t* have* to be on the internet when bad, triggering things happen, or if you do, you can mute certain words. Checking out might be the most effective ways for you to coping, and that’s fine.
— Helen Armstrong (@ helenkarmstrong) June 5, 2018
And if you find yourself in a crisis, there are many important resources worth keeping on hand, among them the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline ( 800 -2 73 -8 255 ), the Crisis Text Line( text “HOME” to 741741 ), and the Trevor Project (8 66 -4 88 -7 386 ).
If you’re in a bad place, these organizations are there to help without judgment. There’s no disgrace in calling them up.
Finally, if you know of a friend who is considering suicide, there are some simple things you can do to help them out.
Twitter user @ erinscafe shared a great listing that tackles the questions. “Be the lifeline they can grab onto if they need it.”
Most importantly, STAY IN TOUCH. Suicide rates go down when family and friends follow-up with at-risk individuals. Put it in your calendar if you need to. Send that text, make a call, stop by for a quick hello. Be the lifeline they can grab onto if they need it.
— erinspace (@ erinscafe) June 5, 2018
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