The # MeToo movement began this past October after actress Alyssa Milano suggested that all women who had been sexually harassed or assaulted write” Me too” on social media to show the magnitude of the problem. Those two little terms have since taken the world by cyclone, outing quite a few big sexual predators in the entertainment industry and proving the world that yes, this is huge problem within national societies. So, what are we going to do about it?
If you’ve been sexually harassed or assaulted write’ me too’ as a reply to this tweet. pic.twitter.com/ k2oeCiUf9n
— Alyssa Milano (@ Alyssa_Milano) October 15, 2017
Since then, people have constructed it a point to make a difference. During this year’s Golden Globes, actresses and performers garmented in black to depict their solidarity with Time’s Up, a legal defense money meant to help women and men fight their attackers in court. Online, women began compiling a” Shitty Media Men” meant to warn others away from certain men in the media “whos been” harassed or assaulted people in the past. Celebrities even began apologizing for working with accused sex offenders in the past and claimed they were determined to right their incorrects in the future.
So, yeah — in so far, the #MeToo movement has made a real difference, even if it’s just a small one. So why is it that people still can’t seem to understand what it’s actually about?
Just the other day, actress Catherine Deneuve and 100 other French girls signed a letter saying they were opposed to the #MeToo movement because it was leading toward a new kind of “puritanism” and triggered anti-sex and anti-men postures. The novelists claimed that men’s” liberty to pester” was a crucial part of sexual freedom. They claimed it turned women into victims and” poor interesting thing .” And while I understand how they could have come to this conclusion on an intellectual level, I’d still like to disagree.
Very disturbing statement by French actress Catherine Deneuve. Normalizing sexual harassment is dangerous and irresponsible. Dishonor on her and the people who supports this. You are part of the problem. #metoo #BalanceTonPorc
— Rim-Sarah Alouane (@ RimSarah) January 10, 2018
To put sex and sexual harassment in the same vein is a pretty toxic style to look at sexuality in general. It’s like people forget that sexual harassment isn’t just a kind of foreplay. Women aren’t angry that men flirt with them in bars or ask for their numbers or, hell, even want to have one night stands with them. Women are mad that their employers are putting them in between a rock and a hard place by coercing them into sexual relation or talking about their ass in the workplace. They’re mad that humen will yell crude things to them on the street and then threaten “peoples lives” if they don’t have an adequate answer. They’re mad because they are literally being raped by humen in power and no one wants to believe them.
But it seems like there are still people who don’t know how to make this distinction. The other day, published a piece called ” How The #MeToo Movement Could Kill Some Sexy Hollywood Movies” that was contended that movies like and its sequels wouldn’t do well in a post-Weinstein world. But why? is about sex , not sex abuse( though don’t get me started about how Christian Grey is abusive in ways ). It’s like people can’t wrap their heads around the fact that no one cares about consensual sex — that isn’t the problem here.
To be fair, that’s not the full argument. Writer Tatiana Siegel pointed out that Hollywood simply isn’t interesting in making movies about sexuality — because, you know , no one wants to be accused of anything. Here’s a passage from the article 😛 TAGEND
” There may be a concern in this zero tolerance climate that creativity and creative opportunity could be restraint because individuals may become unwilling to set themselves in situations that could be misinterpreted or misunderstood in the creative process ,” says Marc Simon, an entertainment lawyer who created about wrongful conviction, but also advocated for his clients like sexual-assault doc’ s Kirby Dick and Amy Ziering.
This statement may seem harmless on the surface, but in reality, it belittles the women who have come forward. It’s basically saying that people in Hollywood believe these accusations stem from misunderstandings — it’s not like these women were harassed, they’re just perceiving that they were. Not to mention the claim that standing up against sexual misconduct somehow restraint imagination is perfectly inane. Since when did our no-murder rule in society ever stop people from writing a good movie? If a sexuality scene is handled professionally, why would movie manufacturers have anything to worry about?
If this is true and Hollywood is unable to make sexy movies sans sexual harassment then everyone involved should be fired.
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— Alisha Rai (@ AlishaRai) January 10, 2018
I worry that girls will be treated differently because of this, and not in a good way. It seems that some men have gone the extra mile and responded to the #MeToo movement by taking a Mike Pence approach to girls, avoiding them altogether in hopes that they won’t be the ones accused of something. I’ve heard ” good” men converse about how they refuse to meet with female employees one-on-one now because they fear either building them uncomfortable or regretting government decisions wholly. But that isn’t what females are asking for. These men don’t seem to realize( or perhaps care) that doing so situateds us back even further, taking away possibilities from females because they refuse to treat them like their male peers and instead tiptoe around them. They don’t care that we lose so they can ensure that they don’t.
It’s as if people have taken the #MeToo movement and twisted it backwards and sideways and so many directions that it’s stopping them from focusing on what it really is: a motion against sexual harassment and assault . It’s not anti-men. It’s not anti-sex. It’s not Victorian or puritanic. It’s not meant to create victims on either side. It’s about stopping a problem we’ve always had but have always overlooked — and the only reason it seems like a “revolution” is because people are eventually paying attention.
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